The harsh, heartbreaking reality of being a personal trainer and fitness advisor is that many times, it's got nothing to do with fitness and nutrition. Excess weight is sometimes an external illustration of the hate, self-loathing, pain, frustration, anguish, and sadness somebody is carrying with them. It's nothing that a high-protein diet or cutting calories can fix. Many times, people are literally carrying the weight of their childhood, and the weight of a child, with them every day. Some people hide it well. You'd never know that empty stomach was full 10 minutes ago.
Not a day goes by that I don't see these problems. And I'm a fixer. I would love to have the tools to fix everybody. I'm all about solutions. But I can't. These problems are bigger than me, and they're bigger than the people who carry them. Sometimes, we've got to admit it's bigger than us and surrender.
Seek help. You're worth the time and struggle needed to get better.
Here is a link to Overeaters Anonymous. Please love yourself enough to find a meeting. Love yourself even more and go. This is your life, and you deserve to live long and happily.
With much love,